Caring for children that have uncontrollable anger issues can be a challenge for a parent & caregiver while performing their daily work tasks.
If a parent or caregiver notice a child is acting out in abusive ways with their emotions it is important that the child get the appropriate help that is needed for correction.
The primary focus should be finding out why child is performing negatively on those emotions.
Teach the child positive techniques on how to deal with emotions if the problem arise again.
It is important that those negative emotions that the child is displaying should not be ignored or viewed as normal behavior.
If the behavior is caught at an early age and treated on a regular basis parent & caregiver have more chances to develop proper ways to handle the emotions.
Acting out negatively on emotions & behavior matters is a taught skill rather it’s intentionally or unintentionally.
As humans we are equipped with emotions.
As imperfect humans we must learn factual ways on how to control and manage those emotions/behaviors.
Otherwise, we put ourselves in the category of hurting others due to mismanaged emotions.
It is a parent’s responsibility to guide children by giving different alternatives on how to handle their emotions.
If parents do not know how then its mandatory that parents seek help in learning affective ways on managing rage and how to discipline effectively.
If child is noticing that parents aren’t in control of their own behavior/emotions then unintentionally parent is automatically teaching the child improper ways to handle their emotions and behavior.
If child is acting out behaviors at home 9 times out of 10 they will display it everywhere else.
It is up to the adults more importantly the parents to show/teach children positive techniques to control their negative emotions and behaviors.
All adults should monitor the behaviors by documenting and give consequences when child display behavior.
All adults should be on the same page with structure when it comes to children behaviors.
Working with children for over 20 years I learned the same way we as adults want respect, someone to listen, and understand us children want the same in return.
Sometimes as adults our own emotions and stress factors can get the best of us allowing our behavior to become uncontrollable.
If this is the case it’s important to work harder with changing self and talk to the child about the rage you displayed.
Apologizing for how you handled the situation.
Letting the child know that you as an adult will focus on handling the negative behavior in proper ways oppose to inappropriate ways.
This shows the child that not only are you changing self but you are holding yourself accountable for inappropriate actions.
Parents should understand if you do not teach your child the right or wrong way someone else or something else will.
Sometimes as parents we feel that giving our children everything they want is great parenting.
Instead, it is giving children a since of entitlement and leaving them to believe they don’t have to work for anything in life.
This is dysfunctional teaching and is not reality.
In turn if teachings aren’t corrected, children will grow up into adulthood with same attitude, and when let down child/adult will display mismanaged emotions including rage in a negative manner.
As parents we are responsible to provide for our children that include rewarding some wants when positive behavior & tasks are accomplished.
In order to train children the proper ways creating a weekly chart on children important task with positive & negative behaviors should be incorporated in a setting where family can view.
Marking off child’s daily routine and rewarding at the end of the week when all task are completed successfully.
This is showing children what you expect from them, responsibility, and holding them accountable for their actions.
This daily routine is simply creating a system that teaches children what happens when task are completed, not completed, and/or behavior is not up to part.
Child Name:____________________________ Date:________________________
Teaching children ways to discipline their behavior in a positive manner may feel overwhelming at first.
The rewards of the change is well worth the wait.
Our children are adults longer then they are a child.
We want our children to think before they react and having self control is far more important than not having self control.
Showing our children that it is far more positive ways to deal with anger, emotions, behavior, and hurt lets society know that as a parent you just aren’t worried about your child. You are looking out for the safety of others. In my eyes that is an act of selflessness!